How do you Handle Conflict – flight or fight?

by Ron Jenson

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When was the last time you experienced a conflict?

Well, “never” as one of my friends said recently. My response was, “check your pulse pal.”

Conflict is a fact and you know what, it isn’t a bad thing. It’s not. It’s simply a reality. Conflict just means that there are tensions, disagreements, varying viewpoints.

Done of these are wrong. The problem comes when we respond to conflict inappropriately.

And inappropriate responses tend to be either flight (running away from conflict) or fight (getting offensive in handling conflict). Neither works and neither is constructive.

Instead try this – speak the truth with respect.

You see if you speak the truth you won’t run away from or try to deny or bury conflict. And, if you treat the person with respect you won’t be offensive, uncaring and harmful.

This is a simple thing to say but a hard thing to do. So, get to work and begin to build a habit here. Every day for the next two weeks concentrate on handling conflict with openness, honesty, kindness, respect and grace.

And tell us how it goes.

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